10 Signs Your Boss Appreciates You and Does Not Appreciate You.
Ten Signs Your Boss Doesn't Appreciate You
1. They never say "Thank you."
2. They do not talk with you about your career aspirations, your personal and professional development or your career path in the company.
3. They don't seem to notice or at least don't acknowledge your major accomplishments, even when other people do.
4. They ask you to take on projects and solve problems at the drop of a hat, without asking you about your workload or your schedule.
5. They praise and acknowledge other people, but not you.
6. They don't want to hear about your issues or your updates. They wave you off when you try to tell them what you're working on or what you're struggling with.
7. They ignore you during the day, and don't make any attempt to start a conversation with you.
8. They give you new projects and challenges all the time, but they don't reward your growth and your accomplishments with promotions or pay raises.
9. They make inappropriate demands on your time without apology (for instance, your manager's instruction that you personally 'do whatever the client wants you to do' on a weekend).
10. Through their words, actions and behavior toward you, they signal you that you and your needs are not important to them.
Ten Signs Your Boss Does Appreciate You
1. They say "Thank you!" when you accomplish something cool or go out of your way to make something happen.
2. They ask you "How are you doing?" and "What are you thinking about?" They care about you as a person, not just as a production unit.
3. They want to hear your opinions.
4. They consult you before making changes to your job description or your priorities.
5. They respect your time outside of work.
6. They talk with you about your longer-term plans and consciously put you into situations where you can grow your muscles and your flame.
7. They tell you that they appreciate having you on the team, and they say things like "You are the best event planner I know! Another tremendous success!"
8. They ask you "What do you need from me?"
9. They remember the things you tell them.
10. They are available to you when you need them.
Laid out in list form, the differences between unappreciative managers and appreciative ones are obvious. Too many working people stay too long in jobs that don't grow their flames. As you know, when your flame is not growing, it's getting dimmer.
You have grown tremendously under an unappreciative manager, and the reward for that triumph is to go find a new manager who values what you bring!
All the best,
Liz Ryan is CEO/founder of Human Workplace and author of Reinvention Roadmap. Follow her on Twitter and read Forbes columns.