Age: The OverRated Factor In Relationships and Marriages.

Age is the whole duration of a being, whether animal, vegetable or other kind. That part of the duration of a being, which is between its beginning and any given time. In relationships/ marriages why is age a very important factor? Age can be important in a marriage, but it is far less important than other issues such as maturity ( Spiritual & Physical), and compatibility etc. as people get older, age difference means less and less. They say age is just a number. It is indeed a number which cannot overpower an emotional connect and a psychological comfort in a relationship. Relationships with a severe age gap have always been debated about by several psychologists and relationship experts. However, those who fall in love, irrespective of their ages, have a different story to tell.
Love has no age as it is always renewing itself. ~ John Galsworthy
Love is full of contradictions and confusions. We say opposites attract, and yet we measure compatibility by the number of things a couple has in common. With huge age gaps in question, many wonder whether these equations will get past the initial phase of extreme infatuation. These unions are questioned on their morality, and the older person usually gets compared to the younger one's parents, further complicating the flak it anyway draws.
However, when two people with a huge age difference come together to celebrate their love, there are certain points they effortlessly accept to making the age gap disappear. All our lives we try to plan every minutest detail of our life, down to our day-to-day schedule. Some fanatics also plan when and how to get married. Thankfully, we leave falling in love to chance. We let our emotions take over and flow along with them to wherever they might take us. So, when two people sharing a huge a age gap fall in love, they flow to common ground. How they meet largely states whether they will stop at just a meeting or will keep meeting. If they are able to find a connection through hobbies, interests, and other activities that they collectively like, it will essentially define how their relationship will progress.
The ability to share a common love with someone, and the attempt at understanding a fresh perspective on the same subject, connects them. And this counts for more than the arithmetic of their age difference.
Sadly, apparent beauty is very fragile, and those with an age gap recognize this truth quite quickly. This is the reason why they seek a bond that transcends physical attraction. Most young couples find the need to explain to each other their gamut of emotions, sometimes seek attention, other times scheme to make a point, or maybe resort to lying to prevent a confrontation. They go through this phase, despite spending a lot of time courting, and that is because they are yet to make an emotional bond.
Young lovers take a while to move on from the physical aspects of a relationship and create a meeting point for themselves. However, those with an age gap work on the emotional and physical aspects of their relationship simultaneously. Making an emotional connect early on, thus becomes very important for the partners, bringing them on the same page, before they move on to the next chapter of their relationship. It is important for them to know that their partner, no matter how old or young, is going to stand by them in times of happiness, and in times of crisis too.
Every relationship that wants to experience forever, has to maintain a certain level of maturity. What this means is that, both the people have to accept certain drawbacks of age difference, and learn to work their way around it. Also, while it is common knowledge that women mature faster than men, when a mid-20s woman meets a late 30s man, she know he is who she wanted, and vice-versa. Thus, a maturity level is also found, established, and worked upon, as closeness increases with time. Age solely remains a number and nothing more than that. It no longer receives the importance others believe it should.
The concept of age in marriages is a relative one. However it is dependent on the persons involved, age is nothing but just numbers however it applies to only those who believe it.
The more important factors to be considered in relationships or marriages are:
·         Are you comfortable and compactible with the person.
·         What do you feel whenever you are with the person.
·         Do you guys connect; emotionally, spiritually, mentally, psychologically etc.
·         Can you sacrifice and compromise for each other.
I believe all these are far more important than age difference or gap. Being in love with an older person is about redefining beauty, being open to the challenges it may throw, and never forgetting that common ground that once connected you. The interesting aspect about age-gap relationships is that, it completely questions your preconceived notions about timelines for achieving certain milestones in life, and pushes you to rearrange them. Age is truly a number that means nothing more than the number of years you have spent on earth. What matters above age is whether you've found love or not. And if you do find love, everything else becomes purely unimportant.

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